Woundedness as a Part of the Human Experience

by Ariana Solana

November 8, 2006

Just as the label “One size fits all” is not necessarily true, the generalities about woundedness are true to a lessor or greater extent depending upon one's experience.

As a part of my healing process, each night, I pray for assistance to transmute and heal my fears to the essence of Divine Love. Early this morning, I had one of those types of dreams which is quite vivid and difficult to ignore. In this dream, I seemed to be walking through a narrow passage. Ahead of me was a dog who had been wounded. He had scars in several places and some kind of heavy rivets implanted in his body. Then, a boy appeared who had some kind of device that would create a shock. He shocked the dog several times and then was gone. I expressed sympathy for the dog by saying “Oh, you poor thing.”

Then, the scene changed slightly. The dog was gone and now there was a man standing in front of me. He had the same wounds as the dog, including a long jagged scar down his chest to the area of where his genitals should have been. He was emasculated.

The setting changed again and now I had two boys with me. One to the right and one to my left. I told them they had seen something they should not have seen. The boy to my left wanted to go play games in an arcade off to the left, but I told him “No”, he could play later. At this point, I woke up.

While this dream is to assist me to heal my own inner masculine, it also occurs to me that the sharing of this dream may perhaps help someone else in the healing of their own inner masculine and/or inner feminine.

What did I learn from the dream? Actually quite a number of things, but the one that stands out most is how we pass on our own woundedness to those around us, especially in the family and friend settings. Consider that our relationships mirror back to us something about ourselves, both positive and negative. For the sake of this discussion, let's focus on what we call the negative we mirror to others and that others mirror back to us.

How often have you said or thought, “Oh, you poor thing,” That's so sad,” “They'll always take advantage of you,” “So and So has always been so vulnerable,” etc., etc. Each time we do this, we feed a perception to the other person of being in some kind of weakened or 'less than' state. If we stop and look at this perception we are feeling, we can identify the woundedness we are passing on to the other person.

Now, the other person doesn't have to accept our perception; but, in the human experience, he or she will often do so to varying degrees. This is especially true in our relationships as children or with children. This is where we see generations of certain kinds of behavior passed on from one generation to the next.

It's easy to look at the extremes, such as child and sexual abuse, but it seems to me we often overlook the more subtle verbal messages passed on. ”What will the neighbors think?” ”Don't wear that, it makes you look fat/thin/dowdy, like a tramp.” ”It's great you got a B. Next time you'll get an A.” ”I slaved/worked my butt off to do XYZ for you.” ”You're being ungrateful/rude.” You can fill in the blank as to the verbal messages you received and maybe even pass along sometimes to others.

Don't forget the visual cues you received. The ones where the words were right, but the expression didn't match the words said. ”That's ok. You'll do better next time.” ”Don't worry about it, we love you anyway.” etc.

It seems to me that even with the best of intentions, we can unintentionally pass along our woundedeness. For example, just recently, I heard someone describe another as, ”She's always been the one most affected by....” thus feeding the image of this person as being vulnerable or less able to take care of herself. This comment might not be so limiting if it had been followed by or prefaced by ”Up to this time,” or “However, I believe....” This can set an energy which assists to feed the positive/strengths of the other.

It's no longer appropriate to play this game. This was reflected in the dream where I told the boy, he couldn't play now. He had seen something he shouldn't have seen. A game which is no longer meant to be played.

For me, this dream was a graphic demonstration of how I have passed on my own woundedness to others and of how I let myself be wounded by accepting the 'identifiers” passed on to me by my parents, spouse, co-workers, friends. Please remember not all identifiers are limiting, but so often it seems the ones that are carry such an emotional impact that they seem to often override the impact of the more positive ones. And, there are those times when a comment is made in a positive mode, but may have a negative extension tied to it.

Now, it's not just about how we view ourselves, but how we view ourself affects how we interact with and view others - passing judgment on their abilities as strong or weak in various aspects of their lives. Human relationships have been and still are quite complicated in this regard. On one hand, we can praise how well a child played a game, swam in a race, danced in a contest and then, on the other hand, see the same child as not emotionally strong in another setting. So, we feed th child's physical prowess or mental prowess (”Congratulations on the A on your book report.”), but still perceive the child as emotionally vulnerable, thus creating an opportunity for wounding in the emotional body. An extreme example might be the person who is very successful in the business world in his or her career, but the person's personal life is a mess with estranged relationships and strained communication.

So, what can we do about this? Pay attention to how you view yourself and others. Pay attention to the words that come out of your mouth and their impact on that person or on yourself. Remember, what you are thinking of another is a reflection of something you believe about yourself. Examine that belief. Where in your life do you have this belief for yourself? How do your actions create an opportunity for others to feed back limiting beliefs about yourself? And, remember in this world, thoughts really are things. What you think of another can also have a potential effect on them, even if you don't say it out loud. Identify how you can begin to make new choices for yourself from a place of self love rather than self fear. When a limiting thought comes up, acknowledge to yourself, ”I used to believe that. I'm not playing that game anymore. I'm creating a new game where I respect myself,honor myself and in that respecting and honoring, I respect and honor those around me.”

The day after I had this dream, I was shown a vision. First, I was shown how the woundedness humanity carries pollutes the fear aspect of the emotional grid around the Earth and how that pollution affects the Earth like an infection. Although, the focus is on self healing of the individual, this healing has a positive effect on the Earth. We are individuals and we are of the One which includes all other beings including the Earth. It is time for us to remember our connectedness.

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Ariana Solana, Energy Practitioner & Multi-Dimensional Photographer

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